Physical proximity was the key to meeting someone that may become your eventual husband or wife unless you were from a different culture where your parents choose your mate for you. You generally either knew the person itself or knew their family. If you didn’t know them, then one or your friends or relatives did. That’s what proximity did. It gave you access to knowledge about the person you were interested in. That has changed dramatically in today’s age and with the advent of facebook. Mobility is largely responsible for people moving from one place to the next so that you may not even know your closest neighbors. On the other hand, you may be conversing with someone five states away on the internet.
Approaching someone you saw on facebook for a date may not be as easy as it looks. You have to worry about the language you use in your messages. Don’t say things that can be misinterpreted. Don’t sound as if you are overly eager to meet this person. It may scare them off. Don’t be too pleasant and agreeable or she or he will think you are needy and clingy. Keep conversations light and easy going. If you want to know whether your communication partner has a good sense of humor, find a joke that’s clean or only slightly off-color. Note his or her reaction. Comment on your similarities as well as your differences. Be honest about them.
Knowing When You Are Ready For A Face-To-Face
To know when you are ready to meet with the person you have until now only been emailing and messaging with, is a little more tricky. The most important factor is how much you trust this person. Trust is the cornerstone for any relationship. This goes double for internet relationships. After you have been communication with this person for a long time and you are impressed with their character, suggest a public place for your first meeting and then just play it by ear from there on.