Start a conversation

Starting the conversation is the next step. And it’s a big step! This is essential stuff that all other “how to date online guides” don’t mention. Remember, you still have to stand out and open the conversation, so stay away from “you clicked yes on me, you want to go for coffee?”


You need to build rapport (to be in “sync” with someone) and you need to demonstrate value before this – and this starts with a good opener!

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Exactly like in a bar where you start a conversation with an important first sentence or two. Try opening with something that really stands out and begs for a reply. Be a little cocky, be a little funny. If you have access to her profile or pictures, then try to blend this in.

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DO:

- Be funny and comment on her picture

- Be cocky (and comment on her picture)

- Be nice, but not too nice

- Let her know she is interesting because of her activities, personality or similar

- Ask a question so she will have to get back to you

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DONT:

- Say the same everyone else does

- Comment on her looks (unless she’s not THAT hot – then it works)

- Invite her out

- Just say “Hi”, as this will leave her with the easy option of not replying

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Some of the stuff that has worked for me in online dating when starting a conversation are these openers:

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If she is looking away from the camera:
“Hi XXX, this is my special email for those afraid of looking into the camera – have you always been like this? “

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If she is wearing sunglasses:
“Hi XXXXX. Here’s my special hello for girls who always wear sun glasses. Are you one of those that wear them inside as well??”

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If her profile picture is black/ white:
“Hi XXXX, here’s my special gift for people who can’t afford a color camera. Did it cheer you up a little?”

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If she isn’t smiling (happens often):
“Hi XXXX, here’s my special hello for girls who never have fun and never smiles. Did it help?”

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She is pictured in a nightclub:
“Hi XXXX, here’s my special hello for girls who goes out ALL the time”

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She is pictured with a couple of other girls:
“Hi XXXX, here’s my special hello for girls who only hang out with girls and are not interested in guy-friends”

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She is pictured with a guy:
“Hi XXXX, here’s my special hello for girls who has a picture with their boyfriend!”

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Yes, I know – these are cocky, but that normally works best for me. If you think it’s too much, then just add a and you’re good to go.

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1 – Start: Dating guide!

2 – Adding the “correct” Facebook photo albums!

3 – Fine tune your basic profile information

4 – Browse some Facebook dating applications

5 – How to start a conversation

6 – What to talk to girls about

7 – Time to be interesting

8 – You should start to build raport

9 – Now, take it offline!