Facebook girl Heidi – from the dodgy part of town…

Hey friends,

A week has passed and although I haven’t been on a date, I’d like to share what happened a few weeks ago when I met up with Heidi. Heidi and I have some friends in common and I saw a few pictures of her, tagged with a friend of mine.

And as I liked what I saw, I commented on the photo.

And no, I didn’t say: “OMG john, who’s that hottie with you??” but I made a “wow, seems you guys had a cool weekend – did you go surfing as well?”. My friend John replyed to the picture comment: “No, unfortunately!” and I replied “Only thing missing, I’ll take you guys next time if you have as much fun every time you’re out with this crew!”

Now, because she is tagged in the photo, she will (unless she has chosen not to) receive a notification everytime someone comments on a photo with her in it. So I knew she could see that I though they we’re cool because of having and I knew that she could see I was a surfer (which I’m actually not but is that really important?).

After the last comment, I sent her an email. It’s lame, but I knew she already had a good idea about me:

Me: “Hey, aren’t you Johns friend? Did we meet at his last birthday?” and nothing more.

Heidi: No, don’t think so. Thx for the email though and have a nice day

Me: Oh, sorry about that. I was seriously sure! I promise not to harass anymore if you promise not to start smiling on that profile picture (she had a posing photo as her profile picture).

Her: haha, what? You don’t like the photo?

Me: Uhm, well, I mean you look nice but you can’t really see if you’re a serious/boring poser girl or a fun loving adventurous type – could look like that photo was taken in some shady part of town though – so you’re probably the fun version although you hide it well

Her: hah, actually I do live there . But I’d like to think of myself as more fun than boring! Minus my job because I’m a lawyer (well, studying)

Me: Lawyer? zzzzzzz

And from there it took off – I guess you get the point:

Find a reason for emailing and try to come across as “non needy” and try to show value. This is hard, but the surfer comment was value. It’s also value that you’re good at keeping a conversation going like I did here.

And then there’s the secret weapon… the negging, where you tell her she is boring for being a lawyer – this works!

See you next week for more stories about facebook girls!